Preventing Bullying within the Classroom Child bullying is a big problem in our schools today. The main difference between child bullying today through the past could be the nature with the bullying and also the violence that … [Read More...]
Bullying Help Tips
Bullying is very common these days. Bullying is now responsible for many ending their lives so soon. Just about everyone has a bullying story to tell. Hope bullying tips assist you in finding creative ways to boost your child’s self esteem so that they can combat bullying.
An anti-bullying program needs to include a component that deals directly with self esteem and feelings of self worth; because, how we treat others is directly related to how we are treating ourselves. When we feel good about ourselves we are less likely to lash out at others. Just think back to your last ‘good hair day’. On a good hair day, everyone and everything seems great, people are easy to get along with, parking spaces appear out of nowhere – life is good.
The way a children sees themselves is translated to their behavior. If their self talk is that of the ‘critical parent’ they will speak to others in that same critical tone. If they are angry at themselves they are more likely to be angry and intolerable of others. However, children who are pleased with themselves tend to be pleasant and compassionate to others. Abraham Lincoln summed this concept up best. “When I do good, I feel good. When I do bad, I feel bad.”
Howard C. Culter quoted his holiness the Dalai Lama who expanded on Lincoln’s words. “Survey after survey has shown that it is unhappy people who tend to be most self-focused and are often socially withdrawn, brooding, and even antagonistic. Happy people, in contrast, are generally found to be more sociable, flexible, and creative and are able to tolerate life’s daily frustrations more easily than unhappy people. And most important, they are found to be more loving and forgiving than unhappy people.”
So, we need to focus our efforts on helping our children to be happier. One technique you can try this evening is to start a compliment circle. Gather the family and have each person take a turn at turning to the person on their left and giving them a compliment. Encourage others to deliver compliments that are specific to the individual they are addressing. I have had success using this technique with children as young as four years old. Give it a try; you may be surprised at how effective this technique is and how quickly the mood in your home will shift.
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Stop Online Bullying Tips For Kids
Stop online Bullying: Kids who are growing up in this technological age are very much connected all the time.Online bullying is much more common these days. In years gone bully victims who were bullied at school found small comfort in staying home but that’s not the case anymore as kids are connected 24/7 through social media sites, texting and instant messaging. This makes it even easier to be bombarded with ridicule through online bullying.
Bullying of any kind attacks a person’s self worth turning kids into lonely individuals who often believe that no one can help them. that the world is such a wicked place and they would rather not be a part of it. Many kids begin questioning themselves in terms of value and self worth. Some think that something is wrong with them and they wonder whether the bullying is ever going to stop. Some kids do not report it because they are too embarrassed. Some kids quit going to school because they worry that they will get hurt badly. Others wish that they were never born and would be better off dead. Many lost their self confidence,some kids become so depressed that they just give up and commit suicide.
To stop all these suicides and bullying of any kind, everyone must do their part. Children need to be prepared both mentally and physically. Children need to know that one of the many reasons that other kids bully is because at home all they get is harsh treatment and no love. Also, parents you need to let your kids know early that not everyone will be their friends nor laugh at their jokes. Very young kids when told by another “you not my friend” take it to heart and go cry in a corner. So parents, it is of vital importance that children know that when another says, I am not your friend, that it is not the end of the world and when they go cry in a corner they make it easy to be picked upon by other kids.
There’s hope for kids. They can still have a great experience online when it comes to dealing with cyber trolls on or online bullies.Here are some things we can do to help stop bullying and to protect our children from the effects of bullying
- 1.Do not respond to the Cyberbully
This can blow up the situation. If you have too keep your cool and tell the person to stop then seek assistance.
- 2.Save All Evidence. Before you start deleting stuff take screenshots,keep voicemails,print copies of emails and texts.
- 3.Report the abuse- Visit the safety or privacy control centers of social media sites and internet service providers to learn more about their policies.
- 4.Contact Your Local Police -tell them if threats include physical harm,sexual harassment or stalking.
- 5.Block The Bully (s)social media profile, email address,and phone number.
- 6.Protect Your Passwords – if anyone else knows your passwords change them now.
- Check your privacy controls- make sure only people you know and trust can see your social media post
My bullying victim stood up for me.Yep, you read that right. It’s not the day she stood up to me but for me. Now that I’m older and really get the harmful effects of bullying, I completely stand against it. It wasn’t, however, always like that. When I was in middle school, there was this girl in my class. I’d known her since the 4th grade and she was always a little different from everybody else.
She tended to keep to herself and her recess periods were always spent rereading the same book she constantly checked out from the library. She didn’t really have very many friends, and I wish now I would have tried to be her friend instead of pick on her like everyone else. Now, my bullying of her wasn’t as cruel as some of the others, but it was still mean.
Every day after school she used to stand by the buses by herself just doing her own thing. Then one day my friend and I decided to go over to her and pick on her. I honestly can’t remember what we said but, I know it happened more than once. Then there was a day where I misplaced a brand new bracelet. I’d seen her near my things so, I immediately accused her of stealing it. It turned out I had left it at home or something, and she was completely innocent. My pride kept me from apologizing to her.
Fast forward a bit, and I started getting bullied by this one girl. Her and her crew would make faces every time I walked by and would call me a loser. It got to the point where one day she trapped me in a classroom. Me being extremely claustrophobic, I started to freak out and beg her to let me out. I eventually pushed my way out of the room and by the time I made it back to the main hall, the girl I had bullied was telling the conduct director what had happened.
She stood up for me! I was in complete and absolute shock. I didn’t deserve that. She should’ve walked away and been happy that I got a taste of my own medicine, yet she didn’t. Afterwards, she even made sure that I was okay and I thanked her. I still carry that memory of her with me to remind me of how horrible bullying feels and how the people you least expect are the ones there for you in your time of need.
She was the bigger person that day, yet I never got the courage to apologize to her. From that day on I never bothered her again, but I also didn’t defend her when others picked on her. She ended up changing schools, and I never heard from her again. Her name is Rebecca and I am so thankful to have had her in my life to teach me so many life lessons that I still carry with me. I don’t know if she remembers me or if she’ll ever read this but, if she does. I finally want to give her a long overdue apology.
I am so sorry that I thought it funny to pick on you. I’m sorry I didn’t say anything when others mocked you or when they pulled down your skirt. I’m sorry I never sat with you during recess or asked about that book you loved so much. I’m sorry I accused you of stealing. I’m sorry I never said sorry – that it took me this long to say it. I wish I could contact you somehow and really apologize. Thank you for having my back that day.
While I learned many lessons from being both a bully and a victim, I really want to spread the message that it’s time to be much kinder and empathetic to each other. Don’t pick on someone just because they’re different or because everyone else does. Embrace those differences and speak up when you see someone getting bullied. This world needs more kindness and love – it needs more people like Rebecca.